A friend is …
One way to categorize people in our lives, is with the following.
As you read each one, what names come to mind?
A draining person tends to suck the life right out of you. When you see that person enter a room, the reaction is an instant heaviness and dread. We try to avoid these people as often as we can. You have some people in mind, right?
A neutral person is just that. A person who provides some function in your life but doesn’t wear you out or give you energy. You don’t think about them unless you are dealing with them directly and those situations are typically pleasant.
A replenishing person is life-giving. When you see that person enter a room, the reaction is an instant lightened mood and excitement that is accompanied with a smile. When spending time with these people, we realize that the minutes pass way too quickly and we look forward to the next time we are together.
Likely none of this is new for you!
So, here’s the question to ask yourself and the challenge to take away …
Which kind of friend am I?
How do people respond when I am the one walking into the room?
Am I met with dread or excitement?
Am I avoided or anticipated?
I think it’s fair to say that we would all love to be considered a Replenisher.
And, in that case, there are some practical things we can do to work toward that.
- Be positive.
- Be sincerely interested in the other person.
- Ask good questions.
- Practice active listening in conversation.
- Avoid talking negatively about other people or situations.
- Remember details about the other person.
- Strive to add value to the other person.
- Give a hug. (we ALL need more hugs!!)
- Send a quick, appreciative message after the encounter.
What else would you add?
Let’s determine that we will be the kind of friend that we most desire in others!